Now it’s time for my another review of book. Its title is “Emotional Intelligence“.

In my conutry this book has been sold as a “guide”. When you are looking for a “guide-book”, what you’re looking for? I was looking for some advice.

I wanted to know what the “emotional intelligence” is, how it is “formed” (what has influence on it, when parents should “take under control” such kind of development their child to make it a good person and who will cope with life). But as I don’t think – I don’t have problems with an empathy and with “beeing a normal-sentient person”, I thought I’ll learn more about emotions. How to “recognize”/name them. Because this is an emotional intelligence. And when you are able to name what you are feeling, you have greater chance to keep your emotion and instead of f.e. overreacting – behave normal.
F. e. “why I’m starting to overreact? He/she didn’t do anything, for what I could be so angry. I had a bad day, but it’s not his/her fault”. It helps to not go mad. Like in situation, when you are waiting in the queue and after time you think you will “explode” (especially when you’re in a hurry). Try then to think – “no one knows about it, and probably not only I am in a hurry”. Many situations are independent from you and you can do nothing. So why to going mad and spoil your good mood? It’s something like “awareness” of what and why you feel like this in that moment and what can feel others i.a. in response to your words or “deeds”. Thus – when you stop and realize this all in a right moment, probably you will don’t hurt anyone.

That’s what I wanted to know more. And I didn’t. From that reson I will not recommend it as a guide.

But if you are looking for something what will show you what is the “emotional intelligence”, how it is “forming” and what “can happen” if you or your child has problem with this – you can read it. What you have to know is that a first half is quite interesting and wrote in a good way-for-reading. But the other half – in my opinion – read worse and it’s more about experiments which were done.

In summary – I “perceive” it rather as a book more for psychologists or sociologists than for people interested in a self-development.